Dear wanderer,

Perhaps you grew up dreaming of receiving your Hogwarts letter, or stumbling upon Narnia. Perhaps you long to visit Pemberley, to Defy Gravity, or to go to the ball. I will write you that letter, and build you that wardrobe. [A metaphorical wardrobe, that is.] Here you will find step-by-step lesson plans with takeaway homework assignments that show you how to embody fictional heroines in the everyday. This means chasing your dreams and making the impossible happen with your own inner magic.

For the full experience, you can enroll in Lumos Your Life, or request letters from Jane Austen.

You have the potential. Heroine Training provides the tools.

Welcome to our headquarters, where dreams meet reality, where fiction is cherished, where magic is real.

Sincerely, your guide on this journey,



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Love Yourself as a Work in Progress

Love Yourself as a Work in Progress

“What do you do when the heroine is trained?”

Someone threw me off with this question. Because training a heroine is not like training a dog. Or training to run a marathon. There is no end date, or goal, or final event. Being a heroine means being a work in progress. Forever. We are constantly growing and improving and learning, and what ever would we do if we weren’t?

Today I’d like to talk about the idea of “being ready”.

I thought, I’ll do a TED talk when I’m ready. I’ll pitch myself to the 5AM Miracle Podcast when I’m ready. I’ll get out of bed and write that blog post when I’m ready.

But what does being ready mean?

We think of our future heroine selves as this complete, ideal picture that will be us one day, magically. Sort of like transitioning from middle school to high school – especially as a kid who grew up watching Grease, who therefore developed unrealistic expectations of what teenagers look like by about a decade. There is no fixed turning point in which you suddenly become an adult and feel like one, just as you don’t wake up one day as a fully formed heroine. What does that even mean?

Despite not feeling ready to give a TEDx talk, guest on the 5AM Miracle podcast, or write this blog post, I somehow managed to do them (!).

Love Yourself as a Work in Progress

Sometimes we don’t believe in ourselves because of our self-confidence.

How does that work? Health is a great example. I know that I can have healthier habits and be more physically fit, because I have in the past. So I’m not striving for an ideal, I’m striving for my ideal. Because of my confidence that I can be better, I’m not ready to claim that I’m my best.

Sometimes embracing body positivity and striving for healthier habits can feel like a contradiction. It’s frustrating when I’m not aiming for an impossible standard. I’m aiming for my standard, which I know that I’m not currently meeting.

Can I really be proud of who I am if I know that I am not being my best?

Yes. It seems so obvious to me that the answer is yes, and yet it is so hard to actually believe. Not loving oneself does not always mean a lack of confidence. Sometimes it is an indicator OF confidence, belief that we can do and be better. Sometimes loving yourself the way you are feels like settling for imperfection. Sometimes self improvement feels like it has to come from a place of dissatisfaction with the present.

For some of us, the mantra “I am enough” feels like defeat. Sometimes it makes me go “but…but…I can be more! I don’t want to settle!”

Love Yourself as a Work in Progress

Here’s an idea: Love yourself as a work in progress.

Love yourself for trying, even the tiniest bit. Even if you don’t feel like your best self right now, one day when you do, you’ll still be a work in progress. I mean that in the best, most exciting kind of way possible.

This is why, when you enroll in my courses, you get access forever, and can join in every year. Our work moves us forward, but it is never complete. If you would like to celebrate ourselves together, as works in progress and heroines in training, I hope that you’ll join me in Lumos Your Life, a course about lighting up your daily rituals and finding your magical mission. You can read more here.

Lumos Your Life

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This Gryffindor was freaking terrified.

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It was the scariest thing I ever had to do, and as a second year Oxford student that’s saying something.

The time had come.

I was about to take the Pottermore Sorting Hat quiz.

I’d been a Gryffindor all my Potter-reading life. No question. Probably because Hermione is a Gryffindor, and at age 9 when I first picked up the books I WAS Hermione.

In fact, when I went to a Harry Potter party at the library later that year and got sorted into Slytherin by random draw, I cried, threw a fit, and insisted on going home.

THAT IS HOW MUCH OF A GRYFFINDOR I AM.

Back to the Pottermore test.

I gave myself a pep talk. Of course I’m a Gryffindor. I’m bold, loyal, determined… and then I realised. Most of those are actually Hufflepuff qualities. I have nothing against Hufflepuff. In fact, I believe that Hufflepuff is where the best people are (I mean, I did marry one). But but but… I’m not a Hufflepuff!

Sitting in front of that screen, sweating, shaking, as I selected my answers with care (I sat there for like forty minutes) was a form of torture. But it got me thinking about what each of the Hogwarts houses stands for, and how I fit into those qualities.

You can live like you belong to one of the houses, but what’s even better, and stronger, is to live by all of them. Draw on that Ravenclaw curiosity. Channel Slytherin when you need to take care of yourself. Buckle down and get to work like a Hufflepuff. Summon your innermost Gryffindor courage when you’re forced to take an online personality test.

Join me to learn how to live by ALL of the Hogwarts houses

…in my free workshop, Be Your Own Sorting Hat: Seize the Power of the Hogwarts Houses + Build your Best Life, streaming live tomorrow, Tuesday 23 August @ 5pm BST, 12pm EST, 9am PST.

Lumos Webinar

I’ll show you how to…

* Put a dent in your perpetual list of projects
* Learn to set achievable goals, and be inspired to follow them
* Transfigure your personal dreams into a magical mission

>> Sign up to reserve your seat!

Let’s work through our Sorting Hat identity crises together.

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P.S. Here’s that link to RSVP to the webinar again!
P.P.S. Oh, and Pottermore DID put me in Gryffindor so I can relax now.

How to use the To-Do Section of Your Passion Planner

How to Use the To-Do Section of your Passion Planner

I’m back with another video in my Passion Planning series! I hope you’re enjoying them as much as I do making them. This time I’m talking about:

  • how to use your Passion Planner for organising weekly tasks
  • why you should set your weekly tasks all at once
  • why you should estimate how much time each task will take
  • why you should fill up personal and work no matter how busy you are
  • how to prioritise tasks that are both urgent and important
  • why your tasks should be contained to the set spaces, and not overflow
  • how to phrase your tasks in a way that makes you more likely to complete them
  • how to be more productive and time efficient
  • why you should highlight your finished tasks
  • what to do about tasks that come up last minute

^ oh wow that’s a lot! Plus, I mention:

What are your best planning tips and strategies? What are you struggling with? Let me know and I might dedicate a video to YOU!

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P.S. If you enjoy learning about oranisational systems, but would enjoy it more if it were Harry Potter-themed, check out Lumos Your Life, open for registration now, with limited spaces available!