Dear wanderer,

Perhaps you grew up dreaming of receiving your Hogwarts letter, or stumbling upon Narnia. Perhaps you long to visit Pemberley, to Defy Gravity, or to go to the ball. I will write you that letter, and build you that wardrobe. [A metaphorical wardrobe, that is.] Here you will find step-by-step lesson plans with takeaway homework assignments that show you how to embody fictional heroines in the everyday. This means chasing your dreams and making the impossible happen with your own inner magic.

For the full experience, you can Own Your Story, or request letters from Jane Austen.

You have the potential. Heroine Training provides the tools.

Welcome to our headquarters, where dreams meet reality, where fiction is cherished, where magic is real.

Sincerely, your guide on this journey,

P.S. Read more about Heroine Training

Passion Planner Sizes: Compact vs Classic

Passion Planner Sizes: Compact vs Classic

What size Passion Planner is right for you?

Passion Planners come in two sizes: Compact and Classic. After using a Classic size for two years, I downsized to a Compact this year, and I adore it!

Here I break down the benefits of each, and my recommendation on where to get started.

Passion Planner Sizes: Compact vs Classic

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If you’re purchasing your own Passion Planner, use code XANDRA10 to get a 10% discount.

P.S. Take a peek inside my planner every week by signing up for the Secret Garden.

Musical Morning Pages

Musical Morning Pages

I start each morning with journaling. 

[This is Heroine Training Lesson 1, after all]

It’s a version of Julia Cameron’s morning pages, but with music. The music is critical. 

I put on one of my curated playlists or set my iPod to Shuffle and let the music suggest tempo, mood, and commentary just by its playing in the background.

Listening to music is like stretching, a yoga for my emotions. 

It energises and inspires, races and slows. A song can cheer me up, or it can understand my struggles.

I don’t listen to much music while I work because it distracts me into a different adventure altogether. I have a typing playlist (mainly The Social Network) for work, but when I write, that is my time to let the music run free.

Musical Morning Pages

I’ve been working on feeling my feelings

Acknowledging my emotions before trying to tape over them with a happier face, or tie up my enthusiasm like a dog on too short a lead, desperate to race around. 

Music helps me figure out what I need. I can find songs that match my mood, or when played randomly, realise that there is another mood perching on the surface that I hadn’t even noticed.

Sometimes I get so wrapped up in my tasks that I have no idea what I’m feeling. 

When I push through resistance to get things done, I don’t look around to see what I’m pushing. Musical morning pages are my time to observe. Check out what’s consuming me, what’s fascinating me, what I’m working with today. 

Each morning, instead of pushing it aside, I let it out before plowing through the overgrown grass that is my day. The music tempts my truth out of its burrow and into the open air, so I can see it plainly.

P.S. It is almost summer, which means that more lessons inspired by the theatrical process are just around the corner. Leading Lady is open for its pre-sale next week, for my Secret Garden subscribers only. Join us?

Dressing the Part: A Free Webinar with Kitty Cavalier

Dressing the Part: A Free Webinar with Kitty Cavalier

I used to detest dressing up.

As a child, dressing up meant scratchy Sunday school tights. 

As an adolescent, in the Mean Girls era of fashion, dressing up meant short skirts and belly tops, and the misconception that I couldn’t be “fashionable” if I didn’t wear these things. I thought that feminine came in one shade, and I didn’t like it. 

Becoming more in tune with my personal style has helped me own my identity.

Setting boundaries in my wardrobe based on what I want is excellent practice for identifying what I want out of life as well.

In my Leading Lady summer camp, each week is inspired by a step in the theatrical process, and so of course there is a week dedicated to getting into costume! My lessons are accompanied with interviews with performing arts pros, and who better to speak to about this topic than Kitty Cavalier, author of Sacred Seduction, burlesque performer, self-proclaimed lipstick ninja, and one of my personal heroes.

Working with Kitty has got me spontaneously dancing in my living room [this is literally part of her teaching]. Hers is a voice that is refreshing and liberating on the personal development scene, and I can’t wait to talk to her about beauty and its necessity. 

We’re recording our mini salon on Wednesday, and the recording will be tucked away in the Leading Lady armoire.

Join us live for a taster of the kind of topics we feast upon in Leading Lady! We’re talking about:

🌟 How costume can help you be yourself – not mask yourself

🌟 Where to find your signature style

🌟 How to incorporate dress into your daily rituals

Sign up to join us live on 12 April at 3pm EST, noon PST, 8pm GMT!