Dear wanderer,

Perhaps you grew up dreaming of receiving your Hogwarts letter, or stumbling upon Narnia. Perhaps you long to visit Pemberley, to Defy Gravity, or to go to the ball. I will write you that letter, and build you that wardrobe. [A metaphorical wardrobe, that is.] Here you will find step-by-step lesson plans with takeaway homework assignments that show you how to embody fictional heroines in the everyday. This means chasing your dreams and making the impossible happen with your own inner magic.

For the full experience, you can Own Your Story, or join me for a literary tea party.

You have the potential. Heroine Training provides the tools.

Welcome to our headquarters, where dreams meet reality, where fiction is cherished, where magic is real.

Sincerely, your guide on this journey,

P.S. Read more about Heroine Training

Planning Weekly Errands in my Passion Planner

Errands in my Passion Planner

My favourite section of my to-do lists in my Passion Planner is the Errands.

I use this section as instructed, to get out of the house and do little tasks that make a difference.

Here are some actual examples from the Errands section of my Planner this year. You can also request full example pages from my planner monthly by downloading my free ebook, A Spell for Feeling Well.

Errands in my Passion Planner

Personal Errands

Personal Errands include shopping for specific things:

  • Buy flowers
  • Get candles at IKEA
  • Buy shoe inserts
  • Stock up on Toothy Tabs at Lush
  • Buy washing up gloves at Lakeland [the moisturising ones are my favourite!]

Or other specific tasks outside the house:

  • Book theatre tickets
  • Book cinema tickets
  • Return Anthropologie purchases
  • Take out recycling
  • Sell books at Grassmarket
  • Pick up from the tailor
  • Take shoes to the cobbler
  • Deposit cheque
  • Take iPod to Apple Store
  • Pick up a book at Golden Hare that I requested online

Or non-specific tasks outside the house:

  • Consider upcoming theatre shows
  • Look for a new food processor [We got a Ninja one from Lakeland and are obsessed!]
  • Look for athletic top

Or quick little tasks to tack on the end of my day at home:

  • Send email invites to little weekly home party
  • Browse Izzy Lane’s new collection online [If you care to join me, use discount code XAG2 at checkout!]
  • Book a massage
  • Make a restaurant reservation
  • Replace the ribbon on my planner
  • Request more GiffGaff SIM cards [I get a referral bonus, so I keep a few extras at home just in case. Let me know if you want one!]
  • Pledge for No Filter, the anthology of millennial essays I contributed to. And subsequently pledged for myself.

As well as post-related tasks:

  • Write birthday cards
  • Send birthday cards
  • Order presents online
  • Purchase stamps

Work Errands

Every week:

  • Business reflection
  • Files OR Accounting

Plus little maintenance tasks:

  • Update Events calendar wall at home
  • Update social media and website metrics chart monthly
  • Draw my next month’s editorial calendar in my planner

Plus some little non-urgent tasks that will be satisfying to complete:

  • Fix my IFTTT Instagram/Twitter connection
  • Make a master list of students
  • Update As Seen In
  • Fix featured images in Travel Guides page

Reminders to do important but not huge tasks:

  • Instagram #NoFilterCollection
  • Set date for webinar
  • Tweet Sunday Sampling features

Setting up meetings:

  • Schedule appointment with ActiveCampaign
  • Arrange business brainstorm with a friend

Getting a 30-minute start on courses and new projects:

  • Start The Insta Retreat
  • Learn about DSLR filming
  • Brainstorm next Yes & Yes ad

And the occasional actual errand:

  • Pick up tea party favours
  • Print tea party passages
  • Buy cards for tea party invitations
  • Send Hogwarts letters for Lumos Your Life
  • Hang up tea party sign at venue


P.S. If you’re purchasing your own Passion Planner, use code XANDRA10 to get a 10% discount.

This lesson is filed under GRYFFINDOR to encourage getting out and about while getting things done.

App Alternatives and Screen-free Solutions for the Modern Heroine

App Alternatives & Screen-free Solutions

The main difference between Jane Austen’s heroines and me

…is technology. Sometimes I dream of Regency England for its simplicity. For letter-writing to the tune of Mary Bennet playing her pianoforte.

In truth, it’s silly to wish I lived in a different age, when there are such advantages to modernity, and I can choose to opt out of whatever I find distracting. And that is exactly what I attempt to do.

Raise your hand if you spend too much of your day in front of a screen.

I spend enough time in front of a screen during the day, so I’m always looking to find ways to break my screen-using habits, especially before bed.

Here are some screen-free strategies I’ve developed to give my eyes a rest.

App Alternatives & Screen-free Solutions

Flip through a magazine or art book.

When I get into a mindless Instagram scrolling mood (mindful Instagram scrolling is totally okay!), I reach for a fashion magazine or one of my favourite art books. I have such a beautiful collection of coffee table books that often just live on the shelf. It feels like such a luxury to browse through their gorgeous pages.

Consume news mindfully on paper.

I noticed myself becoming anxious by getting my news from Twitter. These days I prefer to buy a copy of The Economist or pick up a free Guardian with my Waitrose card. When I do read the news on a screen, it’s not skimming headlines out of impulse or boredom, but getting educated more thoroughly through my daily “10 Things You Need to Know” email from The Week, or on, which presents news from multiple perspectives.

Keep a stack of postcards by your bed.

Sometimes I’m tempted to send a friend a message as I’m falling asleep, but this means exposing my eyes to my iPod’s screen again. Instead, I keep a stack of Disney postcards on my bedside table for jotting down these messages by hand.

Delete apps.

I cleaned up Kiki (my iPod)’s collection of apps to the bare minimum. I don’t have a smartphone, and mainly use my iPod for podcasts, music, and Instagram. I have to remind myself to avoid the rabbit hole of having too much information at my fingertips. I deleted Twitter and Facebook, choosing to limit my use to these addictive apps to my more-mindful browser instead.

Take email off your phone.

Checking email too often does more harm than good. I disconnected email from the Mail app, deleted the Gmail app, and logged out of Chrome. I use LastPass to store my passwords, so if I need to access email, I can, but it’s a hassle. I prefer to check email once a day, in a focused fashion.

Related: A Minimalist’s Guide to Gmail

Carry a camera.

Sometimes I bring my iPod places I don’t need to because I want to use the camera. Then I end up using it for other things. I have a fancy DSLR camera (called Thomas), so sometimes I bring him instead of Kiki (my iPod).

Take advantage of multimedia options.

When you do use messaging apps, consider using voice memos or sending videos. I consider which medium would be suit the message at hand. Recording a message can be easier on the eyes and posture than tapping on a tiny keyboard, and might be easier for the recipient to consume as well!

Plus, some problems I’m still solving [I need your help]:

  • I’ll often bring Kiki to count my steps as I’m a slave to my Pedometer app. I’m considering getting a fitbit to prevent this, but it’s expensive, and another thing to carry around. Thoughts?
  • I miss the days of popping a CD into my yellow boombox and enjoying an album from start to finish. Now I have to fiddle with selecting music on iTunes or the music app. Getting a record player is something I’m considering for my wish list. Any other suggestions?


P.S. I also prefer to give my eyes a rest by navigating without a smartphone.

This lesson is filed under HUFFLEPUFF for encouraging patience and dedication to one task at a time.

St. Louis, MO / Fit for a Heroine



Welcome to St. Louis!

St. Louis is a great place to visit, full of live music, art, excellent food, and adventure. It is also full of history (the Dred Scott Trial and the 1904 World’s Fair among other events) and was home to Maya Angelou, Betty Grable, Susan Blow, Virginia Minor, and Josephine Baker. I came to visit for a weekend and loved it so much that I decided to stay!


Greet the morning in peaceful Tower Grove.

Start your St. Louis adventure in the beautiful Tower Grove neighbourhood. Grab breakfast at the stunning French bakery La Patisserie Chouquette, or spend a couple of dollars (cash only) on fabulous donuts at World’s Fair Donuts.

Then stop in at the Missouri Botanical Garden and spend some time roaming among the flowers and trees. You don’t want to miss the Climatron, which is 80+ degrees year round.

The Japanese Garden and the Tower Grove House are other must-see parts of your visit. I especially love to sit in the Woodland Garden, near the stream, and write.


Get your climb (and slide, and crawl) on at City Museum.

Next, if it’s a weekday, head to City Museum. For this part of your day, you’ll really want close toed shoes, long pants, and maybe even some kneepads! If you’re lucky enough to be in town on a Friday or Saturday, save this for the evening, when there are fewer small children.

City Museum is really the highlight of your adventure. It’s part playground, part circus, part art installation, and part museum. Make sure you try out the 10-story slide in the caves (if the roof is open, you can avoid the 10-story climb by taking the elevator to the roof).

If you’re feeling especially brave, head outside to MonstroCity and make the slightly terrifying climb across a wrought-iron slinky suspended 100 feet in the air from an airplane to a slide.


Breathe in some quiet and beauty at the Cathedral Basilica St. Louis.

After City Museum, you’ll want to catch your breath. Head west toward the Cathedral Basilica St. Louis, which houses the largest collection of mosaics in the world.

The Basilica is open to visitors except during mass, and you can arrange a tour in advance if you’d like to hear more about the history of the building. Otherwise, wander around on your own and try not to get a neck ache marvelling at the gorgeous art.


Chow down and shop in the Central West End.

The nearby trendy Central West End is a great place to shop and people watch. If you’ve worked up an appetite, I recommend Pi Pizzeria for lunch. Try something with provel, our locally famous cheese!

Then head down the street to Jeni’s Splendid Ice Cream, which lives up to the name. You’ll also want to visit Left Bank Books next door to Jeni’s. Keep an eye out for the bookstore cat, who always enjoys a good chin scratching.

Have an adventure in Forest Park.

Forest Park could encompass a weeklong visit all on its own. It is one of the largest urban parks in the United States and was the site of the 1904 World’s Fair. The park contains a zoo (recently voted the best in the nation), art museum, science center, and history museum, all of which have free admission. On summer evenings, the MUNY offers outdoor musical theater that is not to be missed.

While parking in museum lots is expensive, all of the street parking in the park is free, so you can save big by doing a little walking.


Relax like a local on Art Hill.

Before leaving Forest Park, make your way to the Grand Basin and Art Hill, next to the Art Museum. I have never, anywhere in the world, felt more like I was in a Jane Austen novel than when strolling around the Grand Basin at sunset.

It is a very popular St. Louis pastime to sit on a blanket on Art Hill in the evening with snacks and a drink (you can have alcohol in the park if you’re having a picnic!). Bring a book, a kite, a frisbee, or your dog. If you like, the Boathouse Restaurant will pack you a snack that you can take out on a paddle boat and eat while you explore the Grand Basin by water.

Finish with a bang in the Delmar Loop.

As your evening winds down, head to the Delmar Loop. If you like, you’ll soon even be able to take the new Loop Trolley from the Missouri History Museum over to the Loop.

Once you’re there, enjoy shopping, food, and live music. I highly recommend Avalon Exchange for vintage and gently-used clothing. Bowl at Pin Up Bowl, see a show at the Pageant or a film at the historic Tivoli Theater, and follow your nose to dinner. I recommend Mission Taco, but you really can’t go wrong.

For dessert, pop into Piccione Pastry. Don’t miss their collaboration with Clementine’s Naughty and Nice Creamery and get some ice cream to go with your cannoli.


Swim, climb, and dive at Johnson’s Shut-Ins.

For extra credit, if you are visiting in summer and have a day to dedicate to it, visit Johnson’s Shut Ins, a natural area about two hours south of the city. At the Shut-Ins you can swim in deep pools, jump off of cliffs, climb up waterfalls, and adventure until you drop.

10 minutes away is Elephant Rocks State Park, where you can climb pink granite boulders larger than a house. Also nearby is Taum Sauk State Park, which contains the highest point and tallest waterfall in Missouri.

A HEROINE’S TRAVEL GUIDE TO ST. LOUIS, MOErin Cook is a writer, educator, adventurer, and photographer at Erin Takes Pictures. She is a volunteer butterfly wrangler who has never yet had to announce a Code Eagle for an escaped butterfly. She is passionate about social justice, sexual health and education, literature, and cats.

Xandra recommends: Read Erin’s extensive style analysis on why the first chapter of Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone is a literary masterpiece!

Is your hometown the perfect fit for a heroine? I’m always looking for fabulous locals to contribute to this Fit for a Heroine travel guide series. If you’re interested in writing for Heroine Training, read the guidelines and get in touch.

This guide is filed under GRYFFINDOR for encouraging exploration and braving the great heights of the City Museum.